As the title says, this post will be about breaking up. Whether it may be the breaking up of a relationship, a friendship or any other kind (is there one?)...
Let's use some examples from the bible that is Sex and The City.
“As we drive along this road called life, occasionally a gal will find herself a little lost. And when that happens, I guess she has to let go of the coulda, shoulda, woulda, buckle up and just keep going.”First off this is a personal post, as I have just gone through a break-up (the boy and girl kind!)
We were together for over a year, loved each other but decided we were growing apart and not loving each other in that 'can't get enough, take me now!!' sort of way :)
So how do you cope with this?
Well if you're the one who wanted the break up you'll find yourself being able to move on (somewhat) fairly quickly. However if you are the one who was broken up with, it's not quite so simple. You might still think of the person every day, associate places/songs/events with a memory of them or just plainly miss them in the bedroom (instert filthy images here).
So how come some people can handle a break up while others feel the need to drown their sorrows in booze filled nights out/ crazy new hairstyles/ change of appearance?
creditThe answer is: T
hese people understand that the person they were with does not define their happiness!Simple right? Yet oh so very hard to see when you're in love! (Guilty!)
For those of you finding yourself not being able to get over this other person quickly enough, I suggest reading two FABULOUS books!
1. He's just Not that into you
2. It's just a Date: How to Get 'em, Read 'em and Rock 'em
These books (especially IJAD) have taught me so great lessons which I have implemented into my life.
One chapter for instance talks about how you should be completely happy with you life without a man. You have everything: great friendships, great career, you're healthy and have a good social life. However no man? SO WHAT! Keep living your life and if and when a guy does want to get into your life, he will have t fit in perfectly into what you already have.
Being single again, has shown me the areas of my life which I was neglecting. My friendships with my beautiful friends, my family and above all my career. Before I met my last boyfriend I was ready to take on the world with my singing and was working on my singing Degree. My week looked a little bit like this:
Monday: 9-11AM : Music lesson 11-15PM : Library 15-16PM: Lunch Break 16-18PM: Library 18-20 PM: Soul Class
Tuesday: 10-15 PM: Library then lunch then Gospel Choir for 2 hours.
Wednesday: 11-16: Library 16-20: Work
You get the idea. I mean people thought I LIVED in the library!!
And for about a month I didn't have a day off to myself.
My career really took off and people seemed to notice this confidence, which in turn attracted boys ;)
Okay so don't get me wrong, I have made lots and lots of 'mistakes' in my love life (i.e. getting drunk all the time, going out all the time, drunk calling, drunk texting you name it)
But I woudn't change the mistakes as they have shown me what to improve on in the future, and I'm sure I'll carry on making mistakes when it comes to love/friendships and my career.
The point of all of this should be that you are completely comfortable with yourself and your life no matter who is in it.
The most important relationship is the one you have with yourself.Blessings, Talisha x